Sunday, December 4, 2011

The Big 80

This is the last day that I'll be 79
years old; tomorrow is my 80th birthday!  I approach it with a little sadness - I can tell that a lot of younger people just don't want to be around us "old people."  I'm guilty of that too -- just today I was impatient with a lady in her 90's who wanted to monopolize the conversation in our group.  I realize now that she is probably just lonely and, after spending most of her time alone, wanted to talk and share the events in her life.  She told of her son's illness, her money problems, tsk'd about the younger generation's failings, etc.  Hope I can remember to "keep my mouth shut" when I get that age (when I see people's eyes glazing over).
        This is my 80th "birthday picture."  Told you that there would be more wrinkles, gray hair, etc. (see former post on my 75th birthday).    I've already received lots of great birthday gifts - Bob gave me a Kindle Fire and John, Mary, Jeff, Scott & Vicky gave me everything I needed to redo my bathroom from animal prints to birds.  It turned out to be beautiful with Canton Blue bath and hand towels, washcloths, bath mat, bath rug, and a beautiful bird painting.  Cheers me up just to step in there.  Everything matches the cheerful 'teal' color. 
       Our sorority is having our Christmas Dinner tomorrow night, so that will be my birthday celebration too.  Bob invited me to go to the Stevens today for lunch but I chose to stay home and eat left-over meatloaf, potatoes and black-eyed peas.  It was delicious!  I then spent all afternoon making a carrot cake and two sugar-free pies for the sorority dinner.  I'd also made Macademia Nut cookies and brownies to take to Sunday School this morning so felt like I'd lived in the kitchen this weekend.
       I'm looking forward to Christmas music programs at our next two Tuesday Bible Studies and then our church's Christmas Cantata will be this weekend.  Last year's cantata was great; I could have attended all three.
         It is already getting very cold here and I'm already wishing for summer.  Thought I'd never say that after having such a miserable summer; especially when our heat pump went out and we spent 3 days with no air conditioning in 110 degree heat.
         Wonder if I'll still be around in 5 more years to post my "85th" ?

Saturday, November 19, 2011

November

I love this time of year! The pear tree's leaves are falling and it's fun to walk through the back yard in the red, gold, brown and green leaves. Bob hates raking them, tho.
Who would have thought that freshly washed windows, inside and out, would make the house look so nice. It all started when I was dusting the plantation shutters and saw spider webs in-between the double panes. The back windows are hard to open so had to call Bob to help me. After washing those (all six sides of the glass) just had to do the rest of them. The 2 front windows are easy to wash as they 'fold in' and you can wash the inside and outside without going outside. Bob did the big picture window in the living room and I did the kitchen window. Walked around the rest of the day looking at my clean, sparkling windows with the sunshine pouring in! I thought about what a simple thing like having clean windows can bring so much pleasure. Guess cleanliness IS next to godliness!
We're looking forward to our trip to Tulsa next Tuesday. Especially special will my my early "80th Birthday" dinner with Scott, Vicky, Jeff and G'Pa. Then we'll enjoy seeing Taylor when he gets home from KU and then Thanksgiving dinner on Thursday with Wanda, Mike and Edwina. We always enjoy being with our kids and grandkids. I'm not looking forward to flying, tho. I've written about that before and dread the long lines and pat downs, etc.
I'm making Italian Vegetable Stew and cornbread tonight and then we'll watch the Oklahoma-Baylor game (if we can get it here). Always enjoy good football games!

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Something New

I bought a new Dell Inspiron computer this week and had my "computer
 guy," Paul Derby,  set it up for me. (I paid him $100 for all his work on that.)  Wouldn't you know - my printer/scanner/copier wouldn't work with it, so I had to buy a new one.  I had to install it myself and that was a problem too as they didn't list a HP Deskjet 2050 so I could just click on the name and install it.  Finally muddled through.  I had noticed that Windows 7 wasn't listed on my flash drives, so also bought an 8 GP flash drive.  Then I learned that I should back up with at least a 9 GB flash drive.  Walmart didn't have a 9 GB and the next size up was a 16 GB for around $40.  Mary told me I might as well get the small drive that plugs in to the computer and I could back up everything.  Then I got a message from McAfee that I needed to renew that protection and if I did that today could save $30.  That only cost around $60 or so.  I tell Bob that this compares to when he got Babe for a few dollars to the shelter; that was just the beginning as we've spent thousands on her since.
          I struggled at first as I didn't know anything about Windows 7 and the e-mail addresses only had the last names for some reason.  Had to go back and type in the first names for everyone.  Took a long time to find my blog and get it up -- and then I couldn't remember my password so I could post something new.  Also, I had Paul put Word Perfect on instead of getting Word and had a problem getting my money program on as it has been discontinued.  I'd backed it up so just reinstalled it but keep getting a message that it will disappear after a month or so.  I just hope this computer lasts as long as I'm able to remember how to use one as I'd have to think a long time about ever getting another one!

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Birthdays

Today, 50 years ago, August 2, 1961, our daughter, Diana Jean, was born. She was a month premature and weighed just a little over 4 pounds. I remember how beautiful she was, with dark, curly hair and a pretty face. She had to stay in the hospital nursery for two and a half weeks and, in those days, they wouldn't even let you touch or hold the babies. Sometimes when I'd go to look at her through the glass, they wouldn't even open the curtains for me and I'd leave crying. We got to bring her home when she weighed 5 lbs. I'd only had experience with boys and had to learn how to take care of little girls. She hated bath time and would cry the whole time. John started first grade around the end of August and, because I didn't have anyone to leave Diana Jean, took her with me to Sunset School to get John enrolled. I learned later that a virus was going around and both John and Diana Jean caught it. She was sick all of the Labor Day weekend and had a high temperature. I took her to the doctor on Friday and he wasn't very concerned; just gave her a shot and told me to bring her back the next Tuesday. She was fussy and crying on Monday night but finally went to sleep around midnight. I put her in the little bassinet next to our bed and went to sleep myself. When I woke the next morning, the first thing I did was check on her and to my horror, found that she had stopped breathing sometime in the night. We called the ambulance and they tried to resuccitate her but had no luck. Bob went with them to the hospital, leaving me at home with John (6 years old) and Scott (2 & 1/2). I walked the floor, crying all the time as I had no hope that she would be okay. Dr. Miner came back home with Bob and sat with me at the kitchen table. He blamed himself, saying he should have put her in the hospital when he saw her the week before. He and another doctor did an autopsy and found that she had the Coxsackie Virus and pneumonia which overwhelmed her and caused her death. I can remember being at the cemetery surrounded by friends and family and the hot sun bearing down on all of us and how hard it was to get through the service. It takes a long time to get over losing someone you love and you wonder "why" it had to happen. Eventually the bad memories go away and you have only the good and sweet memories of your little one. Today I realized that President Obama was born near the same day (he was born on August 4, 1961) as Diana Jean and is the same age as she would have been - 50. How different all our lives would have been had she lived and he had not!!!

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

More Things I Hate - Growing Older



This is a picture taken on my 75th birthday. I'll be 80 in a few more months and dread to see a new picture with the wrinkles and gray hairs that I've added in the last five years. Worse than that are the new ailments that I have and the pills that I have to take for high cholesterol, atrial fibrilation, allergies, blood thinner, glaucoma, osteoporosis, etc. I know I should be more thankful that I'm still in fairly good health and able to stay active and stop worrying about "growing older."

Things I Love

There are more things that I love than things that I hate. I love remembering about Bob's and my courtship, brief as it was. Just thinking about the odds of our getting together again after a blind date 5 years before is mind-boggling. God had to have had a hand in it -- his mother and step-dad even lived across the street from me at one time; his friend who suggested that he call me while he was home on leave was someone I didn't know -- he worked in the post office and would see me come in to pick up my mail from my post office box. Just the fact that Bob did call me for that second blind date is a miracle as he didn't remember ever having the first blind date and didn't even know what I looked like.
Other things I love remembering are flashbacks of my sons' early years -- I can still see John's excitement when he'd see the leaves on trees blowing in the wind when I'd push him down the sidewalk in his "buggy." Or when he'd see the "bubble-lights" on a Christmas tree. And what a smart and cute little toddler he was. He could name all the parts of a car motor when he was only two years old (bet he can't do it now!) His dad taught him that. He was so grown up and always wanted to do what was right. One time when he was only 4 or 5, he was going to spend the night in his little tent under the big tree in our front yard. I had told him that he could come in anytime he wanted to but guess he didn't remember that or hear me tell him that. It came up a big storm during the night, so we got him and his tent in. He later told me that he knew it was going to storm because he had gotten scared in the night and prayed that it would storm so he'd have to get back in the house.
Have lots of fun memories of Scott too. He was little and fast and could get away from you before you knew it. If he heard the music from the ice cream truck, he'd run toward it as fast as he could go. He had a friend who was bullied by the other kids and he'd happily do the fighting back for him. He always (and still does) liked to do the more dangerous things that moms don't want their little ones doing - I hated it when Bob and the boys would go hunting, when he'd ride his Honda Mini-Trail motor bike when he was a 5th grader, playing football, gymnastics, diving and all the other things that were scary. He still hasn't forgiven me for calling the school when he was in either jr. hi or mid-hi to tell them that I didn't want them to play dodge ball in PE as I was afraid he'd get hit in the eye (he'd had a bad eye injury when he was two so we were always watchful after that). He is a very loving and attentive son and I look forward to his weekly phone calls.
I love my daughter-in-laws very much and feel blessed to have Mary and Vicky in the family. I hear my friends make remarks about problems with their son's wives and know that I am lucky that we love one another and are always happy to spend time together. They are both wise and loving mothers who have done a great job raising my grandchildren.
I love remembering growing up with my five brothers and sisters. We always had to work hard; I envied the kids who didn't have to do chores and had plenty of time to study and do their homework. Loys was the grown-up one (I've always wondered if she ever did anything wrong in her whole life!) Jack was my protector, Bud was my tormenter, Doris was my friend (most of the time) and Frank was my responsibility much of the time when he was small. I had lots of cats and dogs to play with, horses to ride, tractors and farm equipment to play on, trees to climb and housework to do (which I enjoyed). I can remember cleaning the whole house on Saturday mornings while listening to "Let's Pretend" and "Route 66" on the radio. The whole family would gather around in the evening to listen to "Inner Sanctum Mysteries," "Green Lantern," and other fascinating stories on the radio. I loved to read but we didn't have a lot of books and magazines or access to the library. Our grandparents had lots of farm magazines and the "Look" magazine in their window seat and I liked to rummage through it when we visited them on Sunday afternoons. They also had the first air conditioner I'd ever seen; my granddad made it himself with wood, screen, excelsior and a fan and installed it in a window. (I thought he was wonderful and that he probably looked a lot like God does.)
I'm thankful that I had good, hard-working, God-fearing parents. They made sure that we were honest, knew the value of hard work and saving money and were truthful. I miss them very much.
I love mornings; guess most would think it's boring, but I love time spent having breakfast and coffee with Bob, working the cross word puzzle, sitting on the patio in the mornings when it's cool, watching the beautiful robins in the back yard and just doing what I like to do for a couple of hours.
Sometimes I think I'm the luckiest person in the whole world!

Things I Hate

I hate to see people doing things that don't help them in any way but have the possibility of doing much harm - for instance, drinking (loss of money, job, friends, reputation, drivers license, etc., etc.). In my relationships and jobs I've seen this happen over and over. What starts out as "cool" can become a habit that is hard to overcome. Friends should be chosen carefully; if they have bad habits and encourage you to join in, then you need new and different friends. I guess I'm old fashioned but to see beautiful young women intent on "partying" and then how it affects their image of purity and honoring the Lord makes me recoil. I mentioned my opinion on drinking to someone recently and was told "Everyone does it!" That doesn't mean that it's the right or smart thing to do. Again, risking being considered "old fashioned," I think girls and women should be "lady-like" and stay away from beer (over a time, it makes you have a big protruding belly too) and any kind of drink that can make you lose your resolve. (For the record, I also think it is stupid for guys to drink too!)